What is love? Love is different to all of us. Those who try to trap love, end up trying to escape from a relationship. One who try to understand love, and control it end up sad, and looking for more, but those who accept love in any way will be happier and feel less stressed when there around those that they love (or think they love.)The Zahir or obsession is what controls us, and drives us to obtain it. The Zahir is something we wish we could have, but we know we cannot have it unless we try. Loves sometimes can become The Zahir, and when it does, it can ruin your life. That is what happens too many, and it can very well cause those that we truly love, to turn away and shun us.
Love cannot be an obsession, it must be free, and when you allow love to be free you will live a more peaceful life. This may sound confusing but it makes sense. Imagine that you are in a relationship that you once loved, but over time that love faded. You are trapped and feeling the need to escape, and once you do your life is full of relief. However, if later in time the love starts to re-blossom, them a problem has occurred. The love that was once believed to be gone was only hidden, by something else in life. Such as stress, temptation, and extramarital happenings. Once this has happened, it will take a strong effort to kindle the fire that you once had with someone that you truly loved.
Overall Love cannot become an obsession or contained, the Zahir, but it needs to be free and not restricted to what society believes is correct to love. Love is free and flowing, and when it is trapped unfortunate events can happen to one.